Tips for Writing a Killer Online Dating Profile August 1, 2007
Posted by admin in : How to create your profile ? , add a comment Tag:online dating profileIf you want to write a profile that really gets you noticed, you have to move beyond the tired old cliches and really gets specific about YOU. The profile about is too boring and too general. It just won’t stand out from the millions of others out their in the online dating world.
1. Be Specific - It’s important to focus in on one or two very specific features that make you unique - features that are positive and uplifting, that will make others want to be with you and get to know more about you. If you are a mountain climber, mention the most challenging trip you’ve been on. If you are involved in the theater, a brief mention of an an unusual role you’ve played is a great conversation starter. And remember, you don’t have to have a long profile, just an intriguing one. After all, others may be reading through an awful lot of profiles, and if yours is short but fascinating, you’re more likely to get their attention than if you ramble on endlessly.
2. Grabbing Attention - It doesn’t matter how wonderful your profile is in the middle if readers never get there, so make sure your opening is really an attention-grabber. It shouldn’t be typical, and it should definitely be short and positive. The worst thing you can do is start out with a warning like, “No head games, please…”
3. Write something that’s catchy and will make the reader want to continue reading to find out more about you. The next part of your profile should fill in some details about you - what you like to do, what your goals are in life, and some details that will give them a snapshot of who you are (your profession, hobbies, how you spend your weekends, pets if you have them, your idea of a great time, etc.)
4. Describe your personality a little bit, including interesting tidbits like whether you’re a night owl or a morning person and what your sense of humor is like. Finally, mention what you’re looking for in a companion - and not just physical attributes. Talk about the kind of personality you think would mesh well with yours, and the things you would enjoy doing together (movies? boating? travel? just hanging out?)
5. If you are intimidated by the prospect of writing a profile, take the time to read through some before writing your own and take some notes. Write down key words and phrases and like and the types of information that you found especially interesting, then incorporate that type of information into your own profile. After all, if it captured your attention, it is likely to work for others as well. You might also write yours up and have a friend read it over before you actually post it. Ask them to give their honest opinion - does it portray you accurately? They may give you some great suggestions that you wouldn’t have thought of.
8 Creating A Successful Personal Online Dating Profile April 1, 2007
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Your profile is the key to meeting your perfect match at online dating and personals services so its surprising that many profiles are mediocre at best. With a little extra time, thought and effort and the help of these tips, you can make yours a winner and attract a large pool of admirers to take your pick from.
1. Invent a distinctive username
Your username (nickname) is the first hint at what kind of person you are. It needs to be original and memorable, while somehow summing you up - not easy in a dozen letter or so !
2. Write a compelling headline
Your opening line, or headline, is like the first thing you see on an ad: it should compel people to read on and find out more about you. Don’t be apologetic about being there - I don’t normally do this sort of thing - and don’t begin (as thousands do) with My names Bob, Im 25 and live in Boise. This isn’t compelling. Its not even interesting. Born in Boise, Heading for Barbados is more the thing. Its intriguing without being confusing, and raises questions : is Bob a traveler, a dreamer or working for an international company ? Only one way to find out read on !
3. Post at least one photo
For 75% of online daters, the photo is the first thing they look for when browsing through profiles. Not surprisingly, profiles with photos get ten to fifteen times the response of those without. Including a photo is a must ! But beware, some photos do more harm than good. Big offenders are photos that show you with someone else, or even worse, part of someone else. (It might bot be your ex, or your exs body part, but people have no way of knowing).
4. Check your grammar and spelling
You might be the most intelligent person on the planet but if you rush your profile and dont check your spelling and grammar you’re not going to come across well to anyone who values intelligence. You might like to prepare your freestyle entries using a program with spelling and grammar checkers, then paste them into your profile.
5. Avoid clichs
Unfortunately, a lot of people say the same thing in the same way as everyone else. Its boring at best and unbelievable at worst. Can we really believe that so many people exercise regularly and keep in good shape ? Also, use a thesaurus to replace well-worn words like good and nice with more interesting, meaningful alternatives that add spice and sparkle to your profile.
6. Make your meaning clear
Your spelling and grammar might be perfect but sometimes your words can convey a completely different meaning from what you intended. Give your profile a through reading to avoid potentially embarassing or damaging misinterpretations !
7. Stick to your own style
Many online dating profile include sections where you can express yourself in your own words. Its a chance to make yourself more human and real, and other members can pick up lots of interesting information about you clues they might fing appealing - from the way you express yourself. Dont block the process by suddenly adopting a style and tone that isn’t really you.
8. Focus on your qualities
Its our unique qualities that makes us attractive - and to some, very attractive !When you have a chance to describe yourself, let these qualities shine. Skip the things that people take for granted (and have in common) and focus on the things that make you, you.
Your Online Dating Profile - How To Present Yourself Online ? February 1, 2007
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For many people, the hardest part of starting to date online is figuring out what to put in their profile, which poses many questions for most people. What do I say ? Where do I begin ? Why are they making me do this ? As with most aspects of online dating there are some basic and simple rules that are not necessarily obvious to the newcomer, who has just started finding her/his way through unfamiliar territory.
Many people are keen to start searching for and contacting people as soon as they join a site. As a result, they either leave their profile blank, or write something quickly before beginning their search.
Here are a few points to keep in mind:
1. Write just a short introduction Try to write a profile that is detailed enough to tell people about you, but short enough to leave people wanting more. This is one way of overcoming writer’s block and is perfectly allowable in most online dating services. Its important to deliver a few good and inviting lines with a clear notification to the readers that it is a “work-in-progress”. Even if you receive a healthy number of responses, don’t be tempted to leave your ad unfinished.
2. Search and save prospect’s profiles Don’t waste time checking out the competition. Instead look through your prospect’s profiles and gather useful information on how to write generally. You will develope a sound sense of the site’s use of explicit language, acceptable length, style, etc. More importantly, however, you’ll discover those characteristics your most desired prospects are looking for in a potential date or mate. And please don’t forget to save those profiles you find most interesting for later contact.
3. Be yourself It’s easy to lie when writing a profile, but more difficult to follow through once you meet someone. If your profile says you’re 6′4″ when you really 5′11″, your cover will be blown as you turn up for your date. Also, starting a relationship with a lie is a sure way to get off to a bad start. If you want to attract a likeminded person, you have to be honest about who you are, your hobbies and interests etc.
 4. Tailoring your profile and language It is commonly agreed that, honestly is the best policy ! Having said that; it is also important to “target your market”. Know which species of bee you wish to attract and exactly what field you are planting in! In other words don’t talk “leather and whips” when you looking for true romance at “Buddhist Buddies Online”.
5. Don’t be demanding Many people use their profiles to list the qualities they would like their ideal match to have. There is nothing wrong with that, but make sure you balance this with information abour yourself. You don’t want to come across as writing a ransom note.
6. Freely express your interest and values When discussing those aspects of life, which turn you on, whether it’s a value, like having a family, or an interest, like skydiving, don’t be afraid to include the whys and wherefores. Use descriptive and emotive language, for example, “that first jump filled me with a profound sense of freedom.” Firstly, you will be allowing a prospect, doing a search of “skydiving”, to locate you. Secondly, you may be giving the prospect a powerful subliminal message that you don’t want to be “possessed”.
7. Too much information Avoid mentioning past disappointments and bad break-ups in your profile; this is not what the space is for. Think: do you really want this to be the first thing people see when they look you up? Don’t let yourself be defined by negatives aspects of your personality and bad experieces of the past.
8. Talk about yourself positively in subtle ways Too often, personal essays or profiles become nothing but tedious list of “I” or “Me” statements. Instead, find ways to inject information about your achievements, desires, and future goals, casually, through short anecdotes, reflections and humor. It helps to keep your “ideal match” in mind and write to him/her as if in direct conversation. Adding an audio file, whenever possible, is especially important because all the information your prospect has received so far has been visual. A short audio file can enhance, authenticate, and supplement your well-executed and masterfully written essay. images44.jpg
 9. Make it funny Using humour is good way to liven up a profile and give people a glimpse into your personality. Some of the most successful profiles are the ones that simply make people laugh. Including a joke you find funny is good, as long as you make sure you write something about yourself in the profile as well.
10. Upload a picture Not having a photo on your profile will make many people ignore you completely. Some people even specify in their search that they only want to speak to people whose picture appears on the site. Don’t worry about your looks. Different people have different tastes and not everyone expects to meet movie star or supermodel online. A clear headshot of you smiling is all it takes to seriously increase the amount of responses you get.
11. A few things to avoid with a veangeance Some individuals are uneasy with writing about themselves and thus feel the need to apologize to the reader. Don’t be one of them ! In fact don’t apologize for anything whatsoever. Remember, “you are a child of the universe and you have a right to be here”. Just try not to tell your entire life story.
12. Be consistent Make sure your profile, your screen name and your picture all match the impression you want to give. If you are a woman looking for a serious relationship, calling yourself “SexKitten” and uploading a semi-nude picture of yourself, is not likely to attract the kind of man you’re looking for. A man looking for a wife, should probably not use a username that hints about how good he is in bed.
Remember : your profile is the first (and often last) impression you will make to potential online matches. Make it count.
10 Simple Dating Profile Tips January 3, 2007
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Your profile is one of the most important parts of your account in the online dating services, it is the part that “introduces” you to other people and gives them an idea of who you are like, your profile says a lot about you. Here are some quick tips on writing a profile that will get responses.
1. Have a nice picture of yourself
A picture is worth a thousand words. You can use a simple picture, it doesn’t need to be a professional one, just as long as people can see who they are talking to.
2. Have more than one photo
Generally, more photos are better than one. Show yourself in different environments, doing the things you enjoy. If you like hiking, include a photo of yourself at your favourite hiking trail. Try to avoid photos that show other people, especially people from your past relationships. The photos should be about you.
3. Smile
If you are at a party, you would probably be more inclined to talk to someone who smiles at you. The same is true for online dating. So smile !!
4. Be pleasant
When you are writing things like your description, likes and dislikes, hobbies, etc. It is a good idea to be as pleasant as you can and come across as a really nice person, people would rather talk to someone who is pleasant than not. All you need to do is write in a happy mood and leave out any negative comments you might have, you could even put in a joke or two make it more pleasant.
5. Be descriptive
People will feel more comfortable contacting and talking with somenone if they know little about them. When you are making your online profile, be descriptive and really try to make things clear about you. Don’t think that you should keep it short, a good long description will let people know that you are willing to share your feelings, interest, hobbies and so on. Let people know who you are.
6. Be positive
There are a lot profiles out there that start with something like “I don’t really believe in online dating but I figured I’ll try it anyway…” Try to avoid this approach. A profile is an ad, so say positive things about yourself while remaining truthfull.
7. Do not make things up
Some people feel as though they need to make things up in order to either hide things about themselves more appealing to others, this is definitely not the best approach to take. Be honest in your profile and it will be better for you in the long term.
8. Show who you are instead of describing it
Instead of saying “I have a great sense of humor,” why not make a joke in your profile and show it !!
9. Do not give out any personal details that may be a risk to you
Online dating services are there so that people can get together and talk in a safe community, do not give out things like email addresses, phone numbers, home addresses or any other way to contact you or reach you, just stay within the safety of the community until you feel completely comfortable talking with people outside it.
10. Reread your profile and check your spelling
Spelling and grammatical errors annoy some people, so why take the chance ? It only takes a minute to reread what you wrote and run a spell check.
Creating An Effective Personals Ad That Gets Results : Do’s And Don’ts November 19, 2006
Posted by admin in : How to create your profile ? , add a comment Tag:creating, Online, ProfileWriting an attention-grabbing headlines for online dating ads is one of the most challenging tasks. If your headline fails to grab people’s attention, no one’s going to read your profile. Many of online systems provide a multiple choice matching along with an essay. After someone finds you with a “match”, it is your essay portion that can make you shine. People who do not fill out the essay are not taking seriously and get passed on for profiles that are more forthcoming. So, be honest in your ad.
1. Share your feelings and experiences
You DO want to communicate things people can relate to : where you’re from, where you’re going in life, things you really enjoy about life, things take make you laugh and so on. You must show your fully rounded self by put your personality and humor into what you write. Relax and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
DON’T fixate on only one aspect of your life for example live to ski, have a great career an so on you’re going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed.
DON’T try to make false impressions because false impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life.
2. Don’t dwell on your problems and limitations
If you have a family problems like divorced or problems at work, DO mention it later after you get to know someone. Because people are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your problems.
DON’T spend time talking about your children and their activities because it can give the impression that you will have limited time and people will get bored of you.
3. What are looking for
DON’T say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married. This will scare a lot of people away.
DO you want something short term or long term ? or just want to chat with ? Example looking for girl between 22-30 that likes camping,dancing,clubbing and gallery shopping.
4. Words to Use and avoid
DO use these words like interested in a committed relationship, romantic, sensitive,gentleman, my colleagues describe me as a cute girl and so on.
DON’T use these words like oral, fuck, blow, make love, I’d love to satisfy you and so on because you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or an email
Truthful Profiles are Most Successful November 7, 2006
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Making your profile on an Internet dating website can be a little bit daunting because you want your profile to stick out and garner as much attention as possible. At least that is what you think you need so you become tempted to include activities like skydiving, even though you have never done it, to make you seem more daring and bold. Or perhaps you say you are an athlete when you can’t walk and chew gum at the same time and your last athletic event was PE in grade school. These are temptations that really should be avoided. The reason why they should be avoided is you will garner attention, but from the wrong set of people. You want to be as honest as you possibly can in your profile because then when somebody responds you know they are interested in the real you! The one that is clumsy or scared of the dark or any of your other attributes that you find silly or boring. These might be just the attributes someone else is looking for.
If you still are not convinced and think you want to add information in your profile that is not true consider this. When you are looking at someone’s profile and they state their favorite activity is staying home with a crossword puzzle you get all excited because this just happens to be your favorite activity as well so you make contact. Then, you ask them about their favorite crossword puzzle and they don’t even know what you are talking about. How will you feel? You will feel tricked, duped, and will stop talking to that individual. So, don’t do this to someone else. You will be tricking them and yourself into thinking you have found a connection when the connection is built on lies.
As a result, be honest in your profile because there are people out there looking for someone exactly like you with all of your imperfections, likes, dislikes, and everything else that makes you who you are. So, don’t hold back when making an Internet dating profile, but don’t lie either. You will benefit significantly more by being honest so keep that in mind. In addition, you won’t hurt anyone else or make them feel like they have been tricked and not trust in online dating anymore. What your grandmother told you about honesty being the best policy was right and that is the best way to create your online dating profile.
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Online Dating. Is It Taken To Seriously? November 4, 2006
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When I look at allot of the online dating services I notice one common trend. People take it very seriously into finding there true love. I find it absolutely amazing the amount of people who are looking for there absolute perfect match.
There seems to be so many profiles out there who tell people exactly what it is they want from a partner. Its as if there an owner of a company and there trying to fill a certain job position. They then take and list there requirements and what they expect from a person. If they don’t meet those requirements then they think there unsuitable. I think that’s crazy.
Dating is about getting to know people and then seeing if you enjoy spending time with them. You will often meet people who you thought you would never date and end up having a strong relationship with them. I’m not saying that it isn’t good to have certain expectations. It is good to have an idea of what you want in a partner. I’m just saying you need to have an open mind.
So what should you put in your profile?
Intsead of a whole big list of stuff like this is what I want and this is what I expect, you should have a touch of personality. Sure you will have certain expectations. You need to personalize them, so they just don’t sound like your looking for a perfect person. If you like to joke around then add some little funnies throughout your profile. You need to show off your personality. Show people how you see the world and that you don’t take everything so seriously.
When you go to a nightclub you don’t just go to meet someone, you go to have some fun too. You need to look at online dating in the same way. Have some fun with it and don’t take it to seriously. You will make things much easier on yourself.
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Tyler Casselman
Your Online Dating Profile - How To Present Yourself online November 1, 2006
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For many people, the hardest part of starting to date online is figuring out what to put in their profile. All dating sites offer their members a profile page, where each member can write about his or herself, upload a photo (or several) etc. What you write about yourself in the profile is extremely important: second only to the picture in terms of making other members aware of who you are and making them want to contact you.
Many people are keen to start searching for and contacting people as soon as they join a site. As a result, they either leave their profile blank, or write something quickly before beginning their search. This is OK if you’re just having a look around, but if you are serious about finding love online, you should take some time and make sure your profile is a good reflection of who you are. After all, it’s what makes you stand out from the rest of the people on the site.
Here are a few points to keep in mind:
Not too long, not too short
Try to write a profile that is detailed enough to tell people about you, but short enough to leave people wanting more. Writing a full length essay is a waste of time as most people wouldn’t bother reading it all. If someone did read it through and contacted you, you probably wouldn’t have anything left to talk about!
Be yourself
It’s easy to lie when writing a profile, but more difficult to follow through once you meet someone. If your profile says you’re 6′4″ when you’re really 5′11″, your cover will be blown as soon as you turn up for your date. Also, starting a relationship with a lie is a sure way to get off to a bad start. Unfortunately, even people who are honest and well-meaning sometimes lie unintentionally in their profile, by trying to write it in a way that they think would make them more attractive to other people. If you want to attract a likeminded person, you have to be honest about who you are, your hobbies and interests etc.
Don’t be too demanding
Many people use their profiles to list the qualities they would like their ideal match to have. There is nothing wrong with that, but make sure you balance this with information about yourself. You don’t want to come across as writing a ransom note.
Too much information
Avoid mentioning past disappointments and bad break-ups in your profile; this is not what the space is for. Think: do you really want this to be the first thing people see when they look you up? Don’t let yourself be defined by negative aspects of your personality and bad experiences of the past.
Make it funny
Using humour is a good way to liven up a profile and give people a glimpse into your personality. Some of the most successful profiles are the ones that simply make people laugh. Including a joke you find funny is good, as long as you make sure you write something about yourself in the profile as well.
Be original
Anyone can write “I have a good sense of humour”, but not anyone could make you laugh. When writing about yourself, don’t just use a list of adjectives. Try to go deeper and give people examples of what you actually mean. A good way of doing this is starting off with a list of adjectives and then using each one as a starting point for a few lines of text.
Upload a picture
Even the least shallow people want to know who they’re talking to. Not having a photo on your profile will make many people ignore you completely. Some people even specify in their search that they only want to speak to people whose picture appears on the site. Don’t worry about your looks. Different people have different tastes and not everyone expects to meet a movie star or a supermodel online. A clear headshot of you smiling is all it takes to seriously increase the amount of responses you get.
Be consistent
Make sure your profile, your screen name and your picture all match the impression you want to give. If you are a woman looking for a serious relationship, calling yourself “SexKitten” and uploading a semi-nude picture of yourself, is not likely to attract the kind of man you’re looking for. A man looking for a wife, should probably not use a username that hints about how good he is in bed. Remember: your profile is the first (and often last) impression you will make to potential online matches. Make it count.
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Suzy Allen works for the UK’s largest online dating company -
Creating An Effective Personals Ad That Gets Results: October 17, 2006
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Creating a great ad means selling your strengths and attributes. Think of this as creating your personal resume. Many of the online systems provide a multiple choice matching along with an essay. After someone finds you with a “match”, it is your essay portion that can make you shine. It is crucial to fill out the essay completely, with at least 2 or three sentences per question asked. You can come back to the essay later on many systems. You will spend 45 minutes to an hour filling this out. People who do not fill out the essay are not taking seriously and get passed on for other profiles that are more forthcoming. Be honest in your ad.
What to write about? Describe yourself honestly and accurately. Include hard data such as your height, weight, body type, educational background and profession. Show your personality. Talk about your hobbies, interests, activities you enjoy, movies, books, or music you enjoy, where you like to travel, and minimally about your work (do not give your place of employment….keep it general such as: I am a nurse at a local clinic, an accountant with a medium size company, etc). Don’t share too much information or write a book…..just write enough to get them interested. You have to leave something to talk about later.
Share your feelings and experiences, not just facts about your life. You don’t want your profile to be a touchy-feely pile of mush (can you hear your potential dates heading for the door?), but you do want to communicate things people can relate to: where you’re from, where you are, where you’re going in life, what makes you laugh, things you really enjoy about life. DON’T fixate on only one aspect of your life: You may love your dog, have a great career, live to ski, and those are great things to talk about in your profile. But if you talk about that and only that, you’re going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed. Show your fully rounded self. Put your personality and humor into what you write. Tell what you are like, and don’t try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
Don’t dwell on your problems and limitations: This is not the place to talk about why you got divorced, your last relationship didn’t work out, or problems at work. You can talk about this later after you get to know someone. If you have children, mention them BRIEFLY with their ages and sex. Do not spend time talking about your children or reveal their names. People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later. People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time.
What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for. To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something short term or long term? Do you just want to chat with? (Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR). Don’t say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married….this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but don’t overdo it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Words to Use and Avoid:
Good Words: Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid: Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I’d love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, fuck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off.You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along.
Tweaking your profile: If you’re getting the type of responses you’re looking for, great. If you’re getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you’d like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.
How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background — even by interest in having kids in the future.
A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but read the answers and look at the essay. The percentages may be great but then the profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.
If there is a photo, look at the photo and remember that the photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unless the person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur/family photos don’t always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit you the right way — do the writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?
Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many don’t want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they don’t know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you’d better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I’ve heard from others, it seems that people who don’t have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you don’t have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person in the city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.
People who say they don’t have a photo or don’t have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you don’t have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to KINKO’s (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a .jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to send the zip files or unusable formats. Typically .jpg, .gif, and .bmp is the limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling in the photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glum). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends in the photos as long as you are in the photo. Don’t use a photo in which you’re dressed too revealingly — you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attract the wrong kind of responses.
What should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face is the size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) with the ball cap on may leave a the impression that you don’t want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.
Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can’t answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and at the top of the essay say “I will be out of town for “x time frame” and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at “x time frame” and I will be happy to respond when I return.” This is especially important during the summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.
Author: Anna Winters
How To Create The Best Profile For Online Daters
Posted by admin in : How to create your profile ? , add a comment Tag:create, Online, ProfileYour profile is the main key to meeting your right match at online dating because people will come to you according to what you describe about yourself. With help of these tips you can create your own profile more interesting.
First thing you need to do is make a distinctve username. Your username needs to be original and memorable because it is the first hint at what kind of person you are. For example relate your username with your interest, background, location and personality (e.g LoneyGuyInCarribean,DesperateSingle etc.)
When you write your profile don’t ever start with My names Jane, I’m 26 and live in Ohio. This isn’t compelling and absolutely not interesting. You must write something to make people want to know more about you. Such as, Born in Ohio. So, only one way they need to know more about you is keep reading.
Attach your profile with a suitable photo. Try to ask your friend or family to pick out a photo that they think looks most like you.
If you have a kids, it is important for him/her to know. When describing your kids try to tell their ages, interest ant if they still live with you or not. This will help him/her know how to interact with your kids.
Most profile have a hefty component of check boxes age group, sex and so on. Normally, a common mistake among online daters is choosing the wrong sex of their ideal partner. So, take care over these basic but important details.
If you are a foreigner, try to mention your foreign genealogy and language. They will try to make something out of it.
Your spelling and grammar might be perfect but sometimes your words can convey a completely different meaning from what you intended. You need to upgrade yourself through reading to avoid potentially embarrassing or damaging misinterpretations.
Talk about the things you love to do and your social life a bit. You can try to be witty and creative.
In your profile you should also learn to write what you are looking for properly. This will help you screen out of people who are interested at you but have got no chance by your standards.
When you express your profile, make it in your own words. From the way you express yourself, people can pick up lots of interesting information about you. Don’t block the process by suddenly adopting a style and tone that isn’t really you.
Be clear about what you want with your partner. If you think that smoking bothers you say that you’re not looking for smoking guy. Be clear however, because some people might think smoking as a very hot a adorable person. When you write that, the adorable ones may not write to you.
Describe the kind of dates you enjoy. For example, I like relaxing atmosphere where you and I can chat and get to know each other, or doing something new and exciting together is a great way to get to know him/her as well.
The most important thing is that you should mention if you are looking for a steady relationship, just a friend or a fling.
Finally, save all your profle information and entries in a master file so you don’t have to start from scratch if you’re planning on using more than one service. Don’t forget that your profile isn’t written in stone. It fast and easy to make any changes you like, so don’t fret too much about perfection.
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